Today's question comes from Heather. She writes:

"My 10 month old does not take good naps at the babysitter's three times a week and is super crabby by the time six o'clock rolls around. Should I just put him down early or should I wait for his normal bedtime?"

That's a great question, Heather. I've got three tips around that:

Tip #1
First find out why he's not sleeping well at daycare. I find that a lot of people just bury their head in the sand around daycare and hope for the best. What I tell everyone to do when you're interviewing is find out what do they do around naptime.

Are things scheduled? Do they have a quiet place to sleep? Or is it just, "Oh, if they fall asleep in the stroller, fine". You really need to investigate a little bit and find out if the situation is conducive to what you've created at home.

Tip #2
The second tip would be to find out how they actually get your baby to fall asleep. Some daycares are great and they'll do whatever you tell them to do which, in my opinion, should be the way it is. You're the boss here. You are the parent. You are paying the bill. They should be able to do what you want them to do.

If you come in really clear and say, "Listen, I put my baby down awake and he falls asleep on his own. All he needs is a quiet environment and a crib of his own and he'll do great," why wouldn't they want that? That makes their job that much easier.

But some daycares, for whatever reason, have certain policies in place where they don't do that. They wrap the babies or they push them in the stroller until they fall asleep and then transfer them to a crib.

You need to find out what's going on to get your baby to sleep in the first place. If it's the total opposite from what you've worked really hard to create, you need to keep looking. No questions asked.

Tip #3
Tip number three around this is, for some babies, they just don't sleep as well when they're out, at daycare, or whatever the situation is. None of us do, really. We all sleep better in our own beds, so that makes sense to me.

If you find that they do what you ask and they try really hard and your baby still doesn't quite sleep as well, then absolutely put him or her down early to bed for the night. I always say there is no reason why you need to live with a grumpy, tired child to hang on to some magical bedtime that you've created in your mind.

Since he's not going to daycare seven days a week, on the days he's home with you and sleeping great, it's no problem to hang on to your normal bedtime. We do want the body clock to get in line with a consistent bedtime; but there is wiggle room around that. It's not set in stone.

And – as always – I’m here for you when you’re ready to get started.

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