Our days are filled with endless tasks and responsibilities from household management and childcare, long work hours and even commitments we enjoy overfill our day so that the night hours become the only time for ourselves. However, for many, this time turns into unproductive and mindless hours, and is a concept called “Revenge Bedtime”. Simply put, this means even when we know we should be sleeping, as a way to reclaim some illusion of control over our lives, we stay up later than we should for that precious “me time.” But what exactly causes this wild idea of revenge bedtime, and more importantly, how can we get it under control?

Understanding Revenge Bedtime Procrastination

Revenge bedtime typically refers only to people who feel like they lack control over their time during the day. This isn’t simply someone being a night owl. This is intentional time to be stay awake to indulge in personal activities without interruption. This leads to a pattern of staying up late into the night, sacrificing necessary sleep in the process. As previously stated, whether it’s due to demanding work schedules, household chores, or other commitments, the night becomes the only opportunity to have some freedom and flexibility, but it comes at the expense of their sleep quality and overall well-being. Don’t lose heart, there are ways to help wrangle this pattern of burning the midnight oil.

Top Three Ways to Fix Revenge Bedtime Procrastination

1. Establish a Consistent Sleep Schedule

One of the best ways to combat revenge bedtime is to establish a consistent sleep schedule. Not only will your body thank you (hello, consistent circadian rhythm and thriving energy!) When you set a fixed bedtime and wake-up time, and stick to it every day, even on weekends, this helps regulate your body’s internal clock, making it easier to fall asleep and wake up feeling refreshed.

To reinforce your sleep schedule, create a power down hour that signals to your body that it’s time to wind down. This could include activities such as reading, taking a warm bath, or practicing relaxation techniques like deep breathing or meditation. By consistently following this routine, you’ll train your body to associate these activities with sleep, making it easier to relax at night. You will probably start looking forward to it when you add in things you enjoy to do!

2. Prioritize Self-Care During the Day

This is a hard one, because you have to put yourself first. But this strategy is important for taming revenge bedtime. This means carving out time for activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul, whether it’s exercise, spending time outdoors, or engaging in hobbies that bring you joy. Even setting a timer for every hour to 90 minutes to do some deep breathing and light stretches will make a difference. Taking breaks throughout the day can also help prevent burnout and increase productivity, reducing the need to extend your “working” hours into the night. When you dedicate this time during the day, you’ll feel more balanced and less likely to sacrifice sleep as a means of reclaiming personal time at night.

3. Set Boundaries and Manage Time Wisely

One of the biggest ways to manage revenge bedtime is to manage yourself with some self-discipline. It is necessary to set boundaries and manage your time wisely to avoid falling into the trap of revenge bedtime. Learn to say no to commitments that don’t align with your priorities and ask for help when possible. Practice time management techniques like prioritizing tasks in order of importance.

By setting boundaries and managing your time effectively, you’ll create a more balanced lifestyle that allows for both productivity and relaxation during the day, reducing the temptation to stay up late at night to catch up on personal activities.

You don’t need to suffer from insomnia to benefit from some habit changes around sleep in a big way. Connect with us to learn how we can up your sleep game!



By Rebekka Wall, Adult Sleep Coach